The why’s of gender neutrality and gender freedom

I read in the news about the controversy caused by the initiative of neutral uniforms in schools that was implemented by the local government in Mexico City, that allowed boys to wear skirts and girls to wear trousers freely, to promote gender equality. Parents were asking the government to revert it, because it supposed a “danger” to their children’s education, it was completely unnecessary, and boys should not wear skirts because, dude, they’re boys! After that, the initiative was reverted, only allowing girls to wear trousers.

Then, I started to think: what’s the real matter with boys wearing skirts? It’s just a fucking simple piece of fabric, it doesn’t gotta do with men’s anatomy or anything else, so I started searching arguments from opponents, collected them all and refuted them into a single document, which I sent to the organisations that were against neutral uniforms and the teaching of gender ideology, and still nobody has replied my mails, because they’re conservative adults that won’t change their mindset towards gender freedom and gender neutrality, not even for their children’s sake, because according to them, it damages their kids’ brains and destroys them completely.

1. Sex is not the same as gender

Sex is biological, gender is defined by society. Masculinity or femininity don’t have anything to do with your sex, your parens are the ones who tell you what to wear, how to behave and which roles and patterns you should follow depending on whether you’re a boy or a girl. Sigmund Freud believed that behaviour and personality were related with sex, but that would be eventually debunked later with more advanced knowledge of human nature. Another important thing is that sex doesn’t vary between different societies, while in other hand, gender varies a lot, depending on the culture.

It’s important for you to know that nobody (including you) should be forced to follow all those unnecessary gender patterns, not even parents should force their children, they should let them decide by themselves instead. Hey, son, do you want to do laundry? Perfect! Would you like to wear skirts? Totally okay. Do you prefer being effeminate? No problem, why do I even ask? Also, do you like that pink pencil bag with flowers? Put it into the cart! I just want you to be happy your way, like any good father should.

2. Clothing has no sex or gender

Clothing and roles have been used along the history to denote our differences and make discrimination and segregation easier, but now that we’re a “free” society, discrimination and segregation are not needed anymore, right?

A young, unbreeched Roosevelt in 1884, 2 years old. Source: Wikipedia.

Now, the only remaining factor with respect of clothing is anatomy: what makes skirts and dresses only suitable for women? Ancient civilisations, Roman warriors, Scottish, all of them used to wear (or still use to) skirts and dresses, so, why didn’t they complain about them only being for boys? I agree that many women clothing is designed specifically for their body, however, they’re not harmful or dangerous for men, so, even if anatomy is important, wearing something that is not designed for you is not necessarily bad for yourself or others.

A group of upper-class Albanians. Source: Wikipedia.

3. Colours have no sex or gender

Source: Pexels.

Pink for girls? Blue for boys? Colours are genderless, so why making fun of that boy with a pink pencil bag? Because marketing told us to do so. Colours were not artificially gendered until early 20th century, before then, all babies wore white dresses (yes, even boys) until they were 6 or 7, because people wanted to keep them neutral, no need to tell everyone your child’s sex: until historical events made people want to do so, and baby clothing companies took approach of the situation. Baby clothing started to have gender-specific pastel colours, and one person suggested that pink should be for boys (because it was stronger) and blue for girls (because it was prettier). In 1940s, manufacturers decided that blue would be for boys and pink for girls. Then, women’s liberation movement made clothing neutral again, but colour gendering returned to stay after all.

Again, what does a simple colour gotta do with sex or gender? Nothing, again. Now, you know why you shouldn’t make fun of that poor boy, since he just chose a colour within the 620-750nm range in the light spectrum, nothing really special, just visible light.

4. Kids should have freedom to play

Darlin, let’s buy a pink toy kitchen to our daughter to get her into cooking from childhood! She will cook for her husband when she gets married. Let’s also buy her a toy baby, she has to get used to maternal responsibilities. Darlin, that beautiful make-up set will teach her to be beautiful and attractive for men. We won’t buy her Lego bricks or something that makes her creative, because she will cook, clean, sweep and mop for her husband anyway.

Damn, we had a boy, he will be named Joe, but we will have to buy more toys and clothes instead of recycling Jane’s baby stuff, because he’s a man, and he will play with toys for men and wear blue. He will be more creative if we buy him Legos, toy cars are more masculine and will probably get him into driving later, puzzles will improve his mental skills: he will be a great lawyer or scientist, we don’t need to teach him laundry because his wife will do it anyway.

Hey, fucking Joe! Are you playing with Barbies? Don’t be a stupid girl and go play with your Super Burning Masculine Men Strong Brave Wheels cars. If you play with Barbies again, you’ll be punished without playing for a long time. You have to play with the toys I want you to play with, because you must be a man [he’s a man anyway], otherwise, we will keep hurting you emotionally and causing you psychological traumas, we won’t give you the respect that only real men deserve and we will treat you like garbage for your entire life. You won’t ever do any house labours, that’s something that only women (like me) must do, not men.

5. Gender neutrality means equality

From the same toys and roles to the same job opportunities and rights, the base of gender neutrality is equality and freedom. Let’s create a world in which everyone is happy and treated the same. Gays, lesbians, bisexuals, transgenders, queers, christians, muslims, jews, whites, coloured, blacks, children, adults: we are all humans, we all bleed the same colour, and we should be treated equally. If you support gender neutrality and teach your children with liberal principles, you’re contributing in the creation of a better future for humanity. Stop teaching machismo and homophobia to your kids, and they will live in a better world.

The best simple and modern Google fonts

Typography is one of the most beautiful things: it gives character to your text. Google Fonts offers multiple fonts that you can use freely in your logos, websites and mobile apps, because most of them are licensed under free licences, such as SIL OFL or Apache 2.0. I created a simple tool that you can use to visualise Google fonts, experiment with them and decide which one works better for you, it’s called Typotest, and it’s completely free, licensed under the GPLv3 licence.

Barlow

Its readability, minimalism and consistent letterforms are the things that make Barlow great for both text and titles, it’s one of the best Google Fonts to try if you want something simple and beautiful.

DM Sans

This is a modified version of Poppins, although it looks more normal and simpler, which is great. It’s very suitable for text and titles and looks beautiful and modern: much better than many popular geometric typefaces.

IBM Plex Sans

Created by IBM, it resembles their original logo. It’s pretty minimalist and beautiful for text and titles, very readable, elegant and consistent. Inspired by grotesque typefaces like Franklin Gothic and currently in use by Reddit, because it’s awesome!

IBM Plex Serif

Also created by IBM, gives a modern look to your texts, while keeping them readable and clean. It’s a combination of modern and transitional typefaces, inspired by Janson and Berthold Bodoni Pro typefaces. It’s one of the best free serif typefaces.

Montserrat

Probably one of the best free alternatives to Gotham available, with nice letterforms. However, it’s not suitable for everything and only looks good in some cases, but, hey, why not including it into this list? It’s great as long as you know how to use it properly.

Open Sans

Friendly, beautiful, simple, has a lot of readability and it’s suitable for pretty much anything, for both text and titles. Yeah, it’s the second most popular in Google Fonts and it’s used everywhere around the internet. Open Sans is very neutral, so you can also use it for serious stuff.

Poppins

Well, I have to say that Poppins is my least favourite typeface in this list: it looks very round and weird, and I find it better for titles, although you can use it for text and it will look pretty decent. Just use it wisely and it’s excellent.

Red Hat Display

Definitely one of the best geometric typefaces in the world! It was very recently added to Google Fonts, and it’s one of my favourite ones in general. The display version is only suitable for titles, and it has a lot of contrast, which makes it perfect for logos and promotional text.

Red Hat Text

And this is the text version, which I find nice for titles and text. It’s minimalist, readable, modern and geometric: a lot of nice characteristics into a single font. It’s elegant and consistent, with low contrast in small point sizes. It’s the coolest text font!

Roboto

This is the most popular font in Google Fonts, it was designed by Google and is being used in many of their services and software, such as Android, YouTube, Translate, and more. It’s readable, minimalist and simple. It looks kinda condensed and it’s suitable for everything. It’s modern and cool.

Zilla Slab

Certainly the most modern and elegant slab typeface, even better than Roboto Slab and designed by Mozilla based on their logo. It works well with text and titles. It’s the only slab font I like, honestly.

My favourite music albums so far

5. Tame Impala – Lonerism

Tame Impala definitely nailed it with this LP, full of psychedelia, distorted instruments and vocals, catchy melodies and lyrics: the perfect choice for loners. The unconventional Kevin Parker’s recording style gives that special essence to his music, making a normal drum sound like a cool alien instrument. The only downside to this music is that it only sounds good if you listen with a good quality music player and high quality headphones: too many bass and treble for any cheap headphones.

4. Melody’s Echo Chamber – Melody’s Echo Chamber

When you combine the beautiful and soft vocals of Melody Prochet, with the extraordinary psychedelic style of Kevin Parker, you get a nice album like this one. From electric guitar in I Follow You, to electric keyboard in Quand Vas Tu Rentrer ?, this album is melodically rich, psychedelic and immersive, creating a nice and dreamy essence. Definitely, this is one of the best albums.

3. Dirty Projectors – Swing Lo Magellan

This album brings a less perfected style that sounds really great. It sounds like David Longstreth just playing with his crazy ideas, experimenting with music, trying to create a different and original style, and the result was incredible. The weird experimental effects of the clapping, the harmonies and the varying rhythms come together to make music in a way that nobody else has ever done before.

2. Dirty Projectors – Bitte Orca

The concept of this album is kinda difficult to understand at first, but once you really start getting into it, you will fall in love with its different style. Bitte Orca combines rock with complex vocal arrangements unlike any other album, in a perfect way, that makes it stunning and rich. This album also encompasses a lot of different styles that fit well together, instead of being consistent and boring.

1. Hundred Waters – The Moon Rang Like a Bell

This album is the most wonderful musical creation that I’ve ever listened. Full of acoustics, reverberations, electronic arrangements and soft vocals, it creates a rich, abstract, complex and immersive atmosphere that takes you to another world, something that only Hundred Waters is able to do that well. Hundred Waters is for me the most talented band in the world, and although their music genre is mainly indie pop and electronic folk, I find it more similar to dream pop.

Hello, World!

Hello! My name is Iván Alejandro Ávalos Díaz and this is my new personal blog, in which I will talk about whatever that comes to my mind, such as indie music, typography, software development and more things that you don’t care about. It’s likely that nobody in this world (except for me) will read this shit, but I want to write it here anyway, because I have nobody to talk with who really understands my stuff, and I found a blog more interesting than creating a diary or something else.

Because my mind is so active, and it never stops thinking and generating tons of thoughts (overthinking), I decided that I needed to write everything out, because writing helps me to analyse my thoughts in a structured way, instead of keeping them messed up inside my gland of thoughts™. Since my life is not very social (because I prefer it that way) and my hobbies and music tastes are extremely weird and different, it’s impossible to share them with anybody else, and that’s simply because people as weird as me don’t exist and will never exist, unfortunately (or maybe fortunately?).

A little bit about me

I once believed that I was an expert and professional software developer, until I discovered the truth about the real world and stopped calling myself one, quoting it instead every time I mention it anywhere. I started with software development at the very young age of 9, playing with Visual Basic 6.0 and learning in YouTube. As I grew up, I learned more and more things by my own, such as PHP, Arduino, Android, C++, IoT with ESP8266, Laravel, iOS, Docker and Kubernetes, Python, as well as many random programming languages that I never used that much; although in none of those things I’m completely proficient. So, basically, I have had fun developing toy projects since elementary school.

The most interesting part of my life was after finishing junior high school (grades 6 to 8 in Mexico), when I did high school (grades 9 to 12) in less than two months and entered to the university with only 15 years of age. I did high school in a 22 module modality, consisting of one exam for each module and I managed to finish them all in such a short time, after which I was accepted in one of the most in demand universities of my city. I will never regret having done things that way, because I’ve always been very introverted and I don’t care about friends, parties and all that stuff, so, I’m completely okay with this.

I’m not smart, gifted or genius

I’m just a completely normal human being, the only difference in me is my passion, dedication, motivation, enthusiasm, introversion and support. I really don’t like when people call me smart, gifted, special or genius, when they should call me instead passionate, enthusiast or dedicated, because those are the qualities that really matter, they highlight the effort needed to achieve any goal instead of just blindly saying that I’m super great. Nobody’s born gifted or not, the possibility that you become one depends on many factors, and not just magic or even genetics. I just want to make clear that everyone can do great things, if they have what’s needed in order to achieve them.

I’m introvert as fuck

According to this website, I’m introvert because:

  • Being around too many people drains my energy.
  • I have a small group of close friends (or I don’t, mostly).
  • People think I’m quiet and may find it difficult to know me.
  • I am very self-aware.
  • I enjoy solitude.

I’m in favour of LGBTQ+ rights

I support human rights in general, and LGBTQ+ rights are not the exception. I’m in favour of respecting freedom of gender, gender identity and whatever that doesn’t harm anyone. I feel bad for all those people suffering from discrimination and intolerance, just because they are different, and even if nothing affects me directly, I still chose to be open-minded.